Why marriages dont work

Although the divorce rate varies depending on demographics, it can happen to any couple, and wanting to prevent a permanent parting of ways is a very real concern for most couples. While finances and communication have been cited as some of the most common causes for divorce, we asked the experts about the most overlooked reasons that marriages fail. Follow Us. Skip to content. We think of investments in regard to money. But we forget about the time investment and education investment that we need to have in learning how to maintain successful marriages.

What other job do we sign up for without any training? Our inability to truly forgive our partners in marriage is one of the major reasons that they fail. True forgiveness is when we are able to treat our partners as if the offense never happened which proves to be very difficult for couples. We are constantly reliving the trauma of past experiences which never gives the wounds the opportunity to heal. This is sad as there are some basic details that go wrong when we choose the right one.

There is nothing wrong with this approach but we are not at all sure as to what we really want. With everything available at our fingertips we deceive ourselves that we know it all but in reality, we hate to dive deep.

When we marry there are a million answers to know from their psyche, intimacy, money, children, aging, fidelity, stance on certain things. This deeper knowledge of the other self is not available by just going on dates. Maybe as time progresses, prospective matches would be opting for a detailed psychological questionnaire to be analyzed by experts and decide logically.

We have been conditioned that happiness is always a by-product of certain actions. As a kid, better marks made us a hero, for an adult it is the success in professional and personal life. While we do feel happy with all the material pleasures around us but we are not content internally. There is a lot of pressure to be the perfect person and discharge your duties in only a particular way.

Maybe there is something wrong. There are several couples whose characters live together, but do not interconnect and do not share anything. The risk is that instead of approaching together, people take dissimilar paths and end up separating. No matter what you are going through, try your best to have open and honest discussions with each other to have strong connection. Lack of communication is certainly on of the greatest contributors of relationship problems.

After the first few months of cloudless happiness, exchanges tend to become scarce. And yet, remember, at the start of your relationship, you wanted to know everything about the other. Each evening, you shared the content of your day through the menu, and you paid your full attention to what your partner was telling you.

Then, little by little, the dialogues became scarce and were replaced by long hours of silence. One in front of the television, while the other stared at his tablet or his computer. Now you can even struggle to start a conversation. Although getting married promises to love each other in wealth or poverty, differences in opinion and behavior regarding money can lead to divorce. Whether it is a rushed marriage for some reason, an arranged marriage, or whatever, lack of love is often what will bring a marriage to its demise.

Certainly, when times are difficult, it is the love bonding the couple that permits them to move forward and stay unified. However, if the criticism becomes constant, the person may feel belittled and walk away, which will ultimately destroy the marriage. For this purpose, it is significant to emphasize the optimistic; compliment your other half, and admit that no one is flawless.

Confidence is a founding element in the durability of the couple. It does not occur at the beginning of the relationship, but it is made progressively, to the amount that the other justifies it. Some men and women still need to please when in society or at work. Cheating on a spouse is often a passage to the act which has its roots in a moral and sexual dissatisfaction present in the couple. To please is then a way of reassuring yourself by being sure that you are still desirable.

However, this does not necessarily affect the love that we have for another. Sex is very significant as everything else in sustaining a marriage.

Feeling that your spouse still desires you is what helps keep couples together. Infidelity is one of the top causes of divorce.